Parents vary from being over-protective, loving, unmindful of their children, abusive both physically and emotionally and may not portray a typical model of ideal parents. Other parents do not have desire to act like parents despite the challenges of taking this role (Bloom, 2000). Trying to have positive outlook for their kids may be difficult due to internal conflict. They keep on fighting on how they were brought up by their parents. These negative patterns of parent’s growth will affect their child rearing process and security attachment.
Although there is recognition and awareness of being parents to their children, they need to overcome their negative patterns of growing by showing great affection that they missed when they were still a child. There are different accepted parenting norms influenced by cultural differences with extent pressure to conform to their norms. Parents who strongly believe that their cultural practices must continue despite having unsupportive environment will affect their way of communication with their children.
Parents keep on teaching their children the strong interwoven tradition of their religious beliefs, values and practices, the important role of their cultural spirituality greatly affects their way of living and dealing with other people that can be passed through their children and offspring. Living in another location induces stress on the parents and children, especially when difference in cultural background is present. It strongly affects their children due to their fear of rejection, lack of support for their beliefs and practices, and fear of how to ingrate their culture to the present situation.
Example of this stressful cultural difference includes the Yugoslavians who were trapped in the midst of ethnic conflict due to religious differences. Other examples include the Muslims from Africa who do not eat pork, the Asian nations that swear not to fight, and the religious sects who do not want to consume drugs for their sick loved ones (Allexsaht-Snider, 2000). Parents having difficulty transmitting and enforcing their values become even stricter in ensuring that their own cultural traditions will prevail. Children are usually surrounded and mingle with peers who do not have the same cultural orientation.
The risk and fear of being voted out by their fears bring them unspeakable dilemma (Allexsaht-Snider, 2000). As parents, communicating with their children about cultural differences they must inflict to them that their trust is to mould them as good children with moral and responsible obligation to their family, school and community (Allexsaht-Snider, 2000). The clash of cultural differences must not be a form of struggle in their day to day living but rather help them to become flexible and protective of their own culture.
From child’s birth to his seven years of existence in the world, most parents play and rear their children. From seven years to fourteen years of life they guide them to follow their cultural practice. From fourteen to twenty one years of life towards adulthood, parents must be a friend to their children (Joyner, 1996). They keep on guiding but respecting their own prerogatives in life. Regardless of countries of origin, families can gain practical learning experiences that can transfer to their children and let them feel the challenge of changes in their lifestyle with guidance.
By understanding the children’s priority with compassionate guidance they can be ready to occupy a space in this world with respect to cultural differences and share their own cultural and religious beliefs and practices. Within cultural groups, an individual may experience diversity but the important thing is for them to recognize the dynamic features of every culture (Allexsaht-Snider, 2000). Changes may take place from generation to generation brought by influx of younger generation ideas and countries global position.
However, the essence of cultural differences lies in the benefits derived from diversity learning. During the past, most children would be quietly sitting in their living room while their parents are entertaining visitors and must be involved in their conversation. Those were the days of traditional parenting. At present it is necessary for parents to encourage their children to get involved in conversation and be confident enough to share and learn new ideas. It is just right to keep certain traditional beliefs and practices but by adding some new and positive ideas can help them in adjusting to current environment.
Reflecting and evaluating the parenting style, values and practices will enable the children to keep the best values, give up the not so good ones and adopt to new ones. Though parents can keep on talking about their old practices and beliefs about cultural differences, it is just right to adopt new practices, beliefs and values with an intention of improving and benefiting their children. Conclusion Cross-cultural learning experiences differed but it is important not to fall into the trap of being left and keep on living based on past cultural beliefs, values and practices.
Giving children the affection, attention and respect despite of being young are significant aspect of parent-children relationship, community involvement and extended family interaction. No individual learns from one person alone. Each individual is connected by their day-to-day interactions with others. The children should be taught to communicate in positive manner with others as this can help them in their self-development (Edwards, 2001). It is great to know that children will obey their parents not because of fear or control but because of their choice to share their own opinion and be respectful in dealing with other people.
Teaching children to respect everyone regardless of cultural differences is a way of helping them to grow (Allexsaht-Snider, 2000). The deep and enduring connection of parents to their children creates happiness at home with their own freedom of expression towards healthy child development.
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